8 o’clock in the morning, the alarm went off and I got a text. I fumbled for the mobile on the desk, pressed a button to stop the beeping and found the text. It was from Ginny, my tutor to say she had come down with flu and couldn’t meet me for a tutorial after all. As a fellow workmate often says at times like these, ‘Dung in a bucket and poo!’ But flu was flu and no getting round it. With fingertips pressing my breastbone, I thought of my own chest infection, well over 100 days now. Illness can do strange things to a man.
I decided to stick with my original plan and get up there early. It was Hardshaw and Mann Area Meeting’s (AM) Annual Gathering, held at Swarthmoor Hall in Ulverston. ‘Ulverston return, please, coming back Sunday.’ ‘Do you spell that with an ‘H?’, asked the ticket seller. ‘No, Ulverston. U, U’, I sounded out. ‘That’s in the Lakes, isn’t it?’ I nodded and smiled at him. I was off for the weekend. As the tickets came out of the machine, we joked about the weather. It had just started snowing.
I stood waiting for my train by the white wicker fence at the end of platform one. ‘Do not go beyond!’, warned a sign. And I didn’t but I do enjoy standing there,watching the grasses and wild flowers, dormant now but soon to burst into life. You wonder, looking at them, how they do it. One morning, while waiting there, I had felt enveloped in a deep sense of peace, as if at meeting for worship. Very strange.
I was on my way towards Warrington. The guard annoyed me by asking me where I was going. Why? Did he think I was stupid or a scally, trying to avoid a fare? Only later did it occur to me he was just checking I was on the right train. ‘Off at Central, walk to Bank Quay?’ and that I was on the right train. I nodded. A young woman got off the train with me, pulling her case with squeechy wheels. I heard her, passing the Golden Palisades shopping centre and then again at the station. In the waiting room, there seemed a million and one women, each with a suitcase. ‘Where is everybody?’, one woman said to her two friends, coming out the lift on to platform 3. ‘Look in the waiting room’, I told them, ‘there’s a million and one…’
There was a problem at Wigan. Somebody had taken ill and we had to wait for an ambulance. I hoped they’d be alright and thought of Pam Lunn’s words, ‘Practice, we must think of it as practice’. Waiting when something is delayed or runs out or is in short supply is like practising for the future. It meant I’d miss the connection at Lancaster and have to wait for the next one to Ulverston. ‘How long? An hour and a half?!’ I could not believe it. ‘Sorry’, the man said, ‘we couldn’t hold it for that long, so it had to go. The town is only 5 minutes away…’ I looked up and saw where I was going. ‘It’s ok.’ I thanked him and headed off to Lancaster Meeting House.
I’ve been here quite often for work. We used to hold meetings there and I was on a course at Lancaster Uni a couple of years ago, which enabled me to drop in for a quiet moment. The sign said ,’Please close the gate behind you’. There didn’t appear to be anybody about. A notice on the whiteboard said the U3A scrabble group had been cancelled that morning. I chose a seat into the meeting room, facing the windows. It was lovely and warm inside. I sat down and chopped my fruit and broke up my oatcakes. A woman came in to collect her bag. We nodded. I felt awkward. I started to explain what I was doing there and then stopped. She smiled at me, collected her bag and left. Time passed. The lights in the foyer snapped on and off in short bursts, as if triggered by someone moving but there was no-one there. After some time, a woman looked in the room. I’d moved across to sit under the natural light to read my book, ‘Reflections of a Long Marriage’ by Roger and Susan Sawtell. ‘Oh, is that your bag?’ I nodded and she left.
I wrote a note in the visitor’s book saying how warm and peaceful the building was. On the way out, I noticed someone had divided the notice board into vertical strips, each with a heading – Charney Manor/Swarthmoor, Woodbrooke, EFM, Local Events, Area Events. ‘I’ll have to tell Lisa about that’, I thought.
It really was exciting riding on the train to Ulverston. I felt like a big kid, looking out of the windows, right and left. There was so much to see. The sea! Sand…buzzards or kites, what is it? There was too much to take in. Look at those mountains in the sunlight! Is that snow? So, I stayed with one side. ‘I’ll sit on the other, coming back’, I said.
‘I wonder if Barrow is named after John Barrow?’ I shook my head, couldn’t be. I was looking at a map of the attractions in Ulverston. Luckily for me, turning right into Springfield Road, I lifted my head up and, almost immediately, there was a public footpath sign for . Swarthmoor Hall. Half a mile, it said. ‘That’ll do me’, I chuckled and passed through the gate. What was that deafening noise? The raucous shouting and screaming were coming out of the mouths of primary school children at play. They looked to be enjoying themselves, not a teacher in sight.
The path brought me in no time to the gate at Swarthmoor Hall. This was my first time and I was going in the backway, or so I thought. I entered the yard and stared at the Hall. ‘It’s a council house.’, I marvelled. ‘George Fox lived in a council house!’ The whole house had been covered in a blue-grey wash, making it look to me like a maisonette. I thought of the Room Tax and the Community Charge and the Poll Taxes. ‘Rise up, Englishmen and women, rise up, peaceably, of course, in protest.’ I actually felt quite pleased that George Fox had lived in a ‘council house’. It wasn’t like that inside, of course, not at all.
Nichola showed me to my room, passing two workmen, tiling away in the bathroom. My room was in Unit 3, room 16 at the top of the house. I pushed open the door. ‘What a lovely bedspread!’, I thought. It looked hand stitched with alternate dark and light squares. And mullioned windows. The view is nice, off towards the mountains. ‘This will do me’, I thought. ‘But I was expecting an old hall’, I said to Nicola. ‘There is one but it’s all alarmed. Wait a minute, let me go back and see. If we’re not too busy, I’ll ask if I can open it for an hour or two.’ She was back in a jiffey. ‘The Hall’s open’, she said and led me downstairs and into the Friends’ room. ‘Through there’, she pointed. I pulled back the blue painted door in the corner to reveal a much darker, wooden one on the other side. ‘Two doors?’, I thought. ‘That’s interesting…wonder what’s on the other side?’ I turned the handle and flinched, so unexpected was the scene before me. I stood between two worlds – with one foot by a 21st century bookshelf and comfy chairs and the other pointing to a great stone floor. There were wooden chests, oak beams and whitewashed walls. It was startling. ‘All yours’, said Nicola, going back to her office. ‘Thanks…’ and I was on my own.
I moved straight nto the Hall first. I remember the fireplace and the stone flags, the raised dais at the end, lit up by the sunshine. What was that on the table? A flask? Was it made of crock or, no, leather…possibly leather, could it be, no? It was a light room. I went through another door into a smaller, darker one behind. This was Judge Fell’s study. Was this the actual room where Judge Fell listened to meeting for worship with the door left open? I was stood here, on my own, tingling, looking at an original copy of George Fox’s Journal. And there was a King James bible from the time of Charles II. It was huge. My hand started to reach towards the pages of the journal but drew back. I couldn’t touch it. What if the paper turned to dust in my fingers?
I started to go round the upstairs rooms. What was this thing rising up between the stairs? I’d never seen anything like it. Artistic? A pulley system? It was beautiful but just seemed to stop on the second landing. The floors are beautifully uneven. The beds are so small, apart from George Fox’s Travelling Bed, which is massive and made of lignum vitae. This is the same wood they made the Liverpool docks out of, the strongest in the world. And there was a wooden, leather bound chest with the initials GF metalstudded in the lid. He’d brought this back with him after being locked up in Worcester Gaol.
There may have been a staircase outside leading up to Judge Fell’s bedroom. He is said to have received many visitors there on business, while sitting up in bed. It must have been freezing, despite the fireplace. Among the many sketches and paintings of the Hall over the years, one caught my eye. It was of a man, leaning casually over a wall, possibly smoking a pipe. He was talking to a lady in a fine dress on the other side. Could they be the Judge and Margaret or Margaret and George Fox? Probably not but it conjured up a pleasing image, one I’d not thought of before about them.
I returned downstairs and suddenly thought, gosh, I could have had my tutorial here in Judge Fell’s study, if only my tutor had not got a bit of a runny nose. I immediately felt bad about this and texted a suitably supportive message to her, lade low by the rhume. Actually, it was far too cold to stay there for any length of time, so we probably would have met in the Friends’ room or gone for a walk around the grounds. I still had unexpected free time and one thing I’d decided to do was call on one of my old colleagues who had left to take over one of the local post offices a few years before. I could tell from my map that she lived quite near. Knibbsy, here I come!
It’s not all in the planning. I’d tried ringing our office in Workington. No-one answered. Well, it was half-term. I rang our office. ‘Do we have Jane’s phone number still on the system?’, I asked Jean, our office manager. The number she gave me turned out to be another colleagues.. I rang Jean again and told her. ‘Do we have an address?’ ‘Don’t you think I haven’t got anything better to do?’ but she looked up the address for me.
I came outside. There were friends busying themselves in the Barn conference room. I went in to say hello. Tim, Allan and Bernie were setting up, hauling large squares of cardboard, turning them into display boards. Wires and cables trippling over the floor. I called into the office to let Nicola know I’d left the hall and she gave me a local map, showing how to get to Croftlands Park Post Office. The route takes you past the old meeting house. 1677 was it? I should have made a note but it had just had a new slate roof put on and there were very impressive, large solar panels in the garden next door.
Here was the post office. I’d visited once before, in my first year after joining the WEA. I’d come to meet Jane and learn about how she worked as a community organiser. Jane is a determined and formidable woman and I remember hoping I wouldn’t appear a complete fool, next to her. I needn’t have worried. She showed me some clippings of WEA events and courses in her patch. The size of her programme was bigger than the local FE college. She’d taken me on a quick tour of the ‘Barra’, a small peninsula where she ran courses. I was quite convinced by the end of the day that she ‘ran Barrow’. I now realise there is something of Margaret Fell in her. She is also one of the kindest people you could meet and an Evertonian. So, we had that bond. It was quite a risk taking on the post office, which was losing money at the time. I was curious to know how she’d got on.
There were three people serving, two at the till and one behind the post office counter. The two at the till were busy, so I looked through the glass and bars and asked, ‘er, does Jane Knibbs have anything to do with this post office still?’ ‘Jane? Oh, yes, she comes in now and again and does a few hours.’ ‘Oh, dear’, I thought, ‘that doesn’t sound very hopeful.’ ‘Does she still live opposite, d’you know?’ ‘Oh, yes. And that’s her daughter.’ She pointed towards a young woman serving a customer. I edged across the counter, busy with big schoolkids and asked, ‘Excuse me, are you Jane Knibbs’ daughter? I used to work with your mum.’ ‘I don’t usually admit to that,’ she laughed. ‘What’s your name? Bernie? Oh, yes, she’s mentioned you.’ ‘Does she still live in..’ ‘Oh, yes, she’ll be in now. Go and knock on the door. She’ll be pleased to see you.’
I thanked her and next thing I’m walking through the gate, looking at Nick, her husband, through the windows and ringing the bell. I had my line all ready. ‘Can I interest you in a new WEA course that’s starting next week…or fancy volunteering for the WEA..?’ Didn’t get to say any of it. ‘Bernie, is that you? Come in, come in, mind the dogs. They won’t bite you. Well, that one won’t. Down, Petal, down. She does bite sometimes but you’ll be alright. Come in.’ Against a background of two jumping, excited dogs. I gingerly yet confidently walked in, keeping Nick between me and Petal. ‘Well, you’re a sight for sore eyes. What brings you up here? Really? I never knew you were a Quaker.’
Time passed. We caught up with each other’s lives. I told her about the changes for the better within the WEA over the last couple of years as well as the collective grievance, my first as a workplace rep, when enough was enough. She told me how she now employed eight people at the post office, which was the reason why she only turned out for a few hours each week. She didn’t have to. She had turned the business round and it was prospering. We swopped contact details, agreed to exchange facebook addresses and meet up for lunch next time she comes to Liverpoo, if we canl. Petal even allowed me to stroke his head. On the way out, Jane showed me her pride of place, a massive jacuzzi/hot tub under an awning in the back garden. ‘Roll on summer’, she said. I left by way of the back door, alongside the park. Kids running about or playing on swings, and I, facing the rolling hills, walking back past the old meeting house, was still smiling.
Fellowship and Food
I arrived back at the Hall in time for fellowship and food. Over the next couple of days, we would discuss various subjects over meals, including our experience of corporal punishment in schools and whether or not it ought to be introduced into HE, the first civil partnership in a religious building in Britain (the Unitarian on Ullet Road), conducted by a lay minister, Angela, who has purple hair; whether or not our guest speaker, Jenny, deliberately avoided sitting in Margaret Fell’s or George Fox’s chair (clearly, it was George Fox’s, while I listened on appreciatively, if unwittingly, sitting in Margaret’s) and I was branded an ‘alpha male’ for offering to ‘go outside’ to look for coffee. It was turning into one of those weekends. What I do remember of that first evening meal is a stunning vegetarian lasagna with the heat rising off it and plenty of salad. I purred to Pauline, ‘if only we have crumble now for pudding…heaven, crumble heaven.’ She nodded. She knew what I meant. It turned out to be fruit salad and cream – pretty good. We filled in our slips for our packed lunches for the next day. Jane, the manager, told us we could tick all six fillings between bread, includng houmous, if we were so minded.
It was down to the first evening session, led by Allan and Tim. They asked us to pick two postcards – one which showed how we felt at that moment and the other to show how we hoped to feel come Sunday afternoon. I picked a card, showing off a big yellow Superlambanana, as my first one. ‘To me, I told the circle, ‘this makes me feel excited, colourful, expectant and looking forward to the weekend.’ The second one had also jumped out at me. It was a picture of two elephants, trunk-to-trunk, with a glittering bouquet of flowers between them. ‘It’s the same as the front cover of the Sawtell Swarthmoor lecture, Reflections from a Long Marriage (2009)’, I said, which I just happened to be reading. But the copy was in my bag upstairs. Did it really have a bouquet of flowers on or not? Probably not, I thought. For me, it represented a sense of family and community. It reflected my concerns for our AM with only two of our Local Meetings (LMs) present, Liverpool and Wigan (though Southport was coming tomorrow, we hoped). St Helens was sort of present in that one friend lives there and so does a second who came for the Saturday with her carer. We think of our absent friends on the Isle of Man. Each of us revealed what our cards meant to us and Tim said we could keep them over the weekend but be sure to bring them back for the last session on Sunday.
Before we finished, I offered to lead a QiGong session on the lawn the following morning at 7am, if anyone was interested. Allan said he was, with one or two other possibles. ‘Why on earth did I say that?’ I asked myself. I’d learned a set of exercises from Diana Lampen over the space of two Britain Yearly Meetings in 2009 and 2011 and two fortuitous occasions at Woodbrooke when we were both there. After 2011, I had finally got a complete set of handouts to know what I was doing. I’ve been practising them ever since. But I never dreamt I would offer to teach them to anyone.
After pleasant company, sipping from a big, green Quaker mug of hot chocolate in the friends’ room, warmed by a log fire, I did a bit of washing up (a spiritual practice) before going to bed. I left the curtains open. With the lights out, I noticed how bright were the security lights outside.They threw a dark shadow looking like a creeping spider’s web across the ceiling and facing wall. I was tempted to close the curtains. Under the duvet and counterpane, it was stiflingly hot, which, with sleeping in a new bed for the first night and excitable thoughts racing round, meant I had a fitful sleep. I was glad when my alarm went off at 6.30am. Time to get up and do my QiGong on the lawn. It wasn’t raining outside, though it was cold. Would Allan be there?
Just after sunrise
The air was quiet. I saw a figure approach from behind the Quilt garden, Allan. We started to practise the discipline of gentle QiGong stretching and breathing exercises, leading to Earth Breath One. We parted the clouds, put the sun up in the sky and turned the world upside down. We grew like cranes and tigers, observed by a raven, high up in the tree’s branches. We were standing on the lawn in front of the Hall, within earshot of the flowing stream. The surrounding trees and early morning clouds parting upheld us. After nearly an hour, we came back in to the centre and rested. Chilled. We agreed to meet again the following morning at the same time. Allan went off for breakfast and I set off on the short walk to the post office and back for my Saturday Guardian (sports section), as promised, with my name in it.
I looked over the sports section while having a top breakfast, including cereal, toast and scrambled egg, juice and lots and lots of coffee. The first session of the morning started off with an introduction to the life and times of Margaret Fell, by Jenny Paul, a local historian from Lancaster meeting. She gave us a quick tour of the religious, economic and political landscape of the mid-late 17th century, showing us how Quakers were part of the rapidly changing scene. Jenny was also going to take us on a guided tour of the Hall. She warned us of the cold inside but I thought I could handle it in my jumper. My coat was upstairs after all.
We all sat down in the Great Hall. ‘Anywhere you like’, Jenny said. I chose an old wooden one with comfy cushions to the left of the big fire place, not too close to Jenny. I soon found out I was in Margaret Fell’s chair. So glad I hadn’t sat closer to her, or it could have been George Fox’s, the one chair she couldn’t bring herself for some reason to sit in. We were getting a picture of Margaret Fell of a well-to-do, young, married women who had a lot of responsibility, running two estates while Judge Fell was away. Margaret married beneath her, it seems, but the Judge, although 20 or so years older, was a rising star. In the early years of the civil war, he supported Cromwell, served as MP in the Long Parliament and became Chancellor of the Duchy of Lancaster. As time went on, he distanced himself from Cromwell and national affairs, spending more time travelling around the north and North Wales as a circuit judge.Jenny described him and Margaret as ‘Seekers after the Truth’. Margaret’s grandmother had been burnt at the stake for her beliefs. What an impression that must have made on the family, the Askews of Dalton.
At home, Margaret ran the household. Her belief in equality can be seen in the fact the family, visitors and servants all ate together round the large table in the Hall. It is unlikely Margaret did the washing up. This would have been extraordinary at this time. Still is today. It reminded me of the way staff at Woodbrooke have their meals and breaks in the same place as the visitors. She painted a picture of a busy house, receiving guests, filled with servants. Stacks of oatcakes were kept in a larger dresser for sudden arrivals. As Jenny led us upstairs, I dashed back through the threshold into the Friends’ room and upstairs for my coat.
Jenny pointed to tapers in boxes on the walls to prevent mice gnawing at them.Tapers or candles were hugely expensive compared to tallow. Burning what is, basically, pig’s fat left the rooms stinking, which is why there were garlands of lavender here and there. People slept in an upright postion, propped up by pillows, which was why the beds were so short. The canopy over the four tester bed prevented small, eight-legged creatures dropping down into your open mouth while you were asleep to wriggle inside you and get into your brain before coming out of your eyes, it is said. Margaret bore nine children, of whom eight survived into adulthood. There were wooden cradles in two of the bedrooms
We learned that the roof had originally been supported by the column rising up between the stairs. Called a ‘nuall’, it was built to hold the roof up and was one of the best examples left in the world. The current roof had been added later and was supported by beams. Over a hundred and fifty year period, the house passed out of the family’s hands and fell into disrepair. It is thought an entire wing of the hall was lost till, in the early 1900s, it was brought back into the family possession by Emma Clark Abraham, a direct descendent of Margaret Fell. She borrowed approximately £5,000 from Quaker families for this, including, possibly, some from Liverpool. Emma was born here. So was her son, Edward Mitford Abraham, born in Grassendale. He later lived and worked in Prenton on the Wirral as a chemical engineer. It’s possible they could be mentioned in the minute books of Liverpool meeting. The problem is, where can you find an antiquarian archivist when you need one to look?
Taking a packed lunch out with us
Could you believe it? It was snowing. I mean, proper snowing. We had set off on foot along the road, bridle and footpaths, not quite sure where we were heading but knowing where we wanted to go, Sunrick, the burial place of Margaret Fell. Nearby was also a stone circle and we wpoud be right on the tip of the sea. On this occasion, we didn’t have enough time to complete the walk but we did see the sea past a dip in the hills. We had snow, sunshine and more snow in the space of not much more than an hour. I enjoyed the walking and talking and also the opportunity to walk silently for a while. It was great. We got back to Swarthmoor right on time for Jenny’s lecture on Margaret Fell in the barn. As we passed, Allan pointed out the opening winter flowering pansies in the Quilt garden, which had been closed that morning.
It took a few moments to settle us down. We were like a group of excited schoolchildren, ready to learn. She showed us a hand-drawn map of the 1650s, like no map, she told us, we’d ever seen before, drawn by her very own hand. The map revealed the key influences on friends. As she talked, Margaret Fell became a real figure in her own right. While Fox was the charismatic preacher, she was the organiser. She it was who ran the estates and household for Judge Fell. She developed a legalistic mind, a familiarity with the legal terms and processes of the law which she used to serve of friends. She writes letters, lots of them on behalf of friends arrested and/or imprisoned. Charles II avoided her. James I ran away and hid in her presence. In a way, she did for early Friends what Paul did for early Christians, it seemed to me, in supporting, encouraging , exhorting, enabling friends to go on. Jenny impressed on us that Margaret Fell had written her own peace testimony before Hubberthorne and Fox’s. It is not widely known, as it was written as part of a letter to the king. It was a fantastic lecture which allowed us to see life as it was lived back in the mid-17th century.
At break, I wandered out into the winding garden and meadow with Alan and Penny, both knowledgeable gardeners. Three differently coloured hellebores, including one which was a shade of deep purple. There is a wonderful photograph of hellebores hanging on the wall in the friends’ room. We found snowdrops everywhere. The celandines were coming into flower.
Tim led us in a quick ‘where are we now’, a gathering to see how we were feeling. Then, we looked at and added to the ‘Tree of Life’. What would we offer, if we could give one thing to hang like a leaf on the tree. Mine was ‘Tis a gift to be simple…’ on my post-it note. Next, Allan gave us an extract from the peace testimony and asked us to consider in pairs what small steps would we take to practise using our gifts to help us achieve it.
Penny read from Quaker Faith and Practice (10.20) at the start of the second session:
One of the unepected things I have learnt in my life as a Quaker is that religion is basically about relationships between people. This was an unexpected discovery, because I had been brought up to believe that religion was essentially about our relationship with God.’ George Gorman, 1982
Tim gave us a sheet of 5 questions to think about in pairs, asking what impact coming to meeting has on us. We had 20 minutes each before we reported back. He emphasised the importance of listening without interrupting or commenting to the speaker. We could stay where we were or…I partnered up with Chris, my buddy, and we headed out towards the meadow before it got too cold. We walked and talked, listening, around this lovely meadow, resting on the bridge over the stream, retreating into the warmth of the small friends’ room on the first floor. I sooke of some of my experiences this past year while on Equipping for Ministry (EfM).. I recalled a conversation I had with a new tutor at Woodbrooke on Overseers’ training, which led to me becoming a friend. ‘So, what are you telling me, Bernie…’, she asked, ‘..that you’re human.’ I wrote my letter to AM clerk the following week, asking to become a member . It’s stayed with me ever since and is a good reminder of doing the best you can but not taking on more than you can hold. I have often had this kind of rich experience on courses at Woodbrooke but it’s rarer for me in my own AM. I just had time for a quick wee and wash before we met back together in a circle in the barn for the start of session 2.
Allan introduced three postcards, each one displayed on its own board, made out of cardboard. One was of a country scene, the middle one showed the ‘Green Man’ and the third was a picture of two young, smiling children. We were asked to write a statement which would be a small step towards helping us live out the peace testimony. As Tim reminded us, it might only be a conversation but some of the greatest changes in our lives start with a simple conversation. We also had to decide next to which postcard would we place it. I wrote ‘To bear witness in the local, regional, national and international…’ and placed it next to the small children. We gathered round the post-it notes on the boards to read what each of us had put.The process had made me dig deep and come up with stuff I didn’t know was there. More was going on here than I realised. Usually at events like these, my energy level drops for a time but, up to now, it had stayed constant all the way through.
Food and fellowship
After another main filling of quorn mince pie, potatoes, veg and gravy, Pauline said to me, ‘You’re a lucky fellow. I’ve just seen the menu and your dream is about to come true.’ ‘Crumble for tea?’, I grew very excited in a quiet way inside, scarcely believing my luck. And so it turned out. Beautiful homemade apple crumble with lots of custard, masses of custard, jugs and jugs and jugs of thick, creamy luxurious custard. The custard kept coming. And the crumble…
What had seemed a smallish group, meeting together for the first time, on Friday evening had been swelled by the arrival of Denise from Southport and Sue and another Denise from St Helens. Due to time constraints, Allan asked me if I’d mind postponing my reading from QF&P till morning. We needed to crack on. I realised a few moments later that this would now take place during meeting for worship in the Great Hall…
We regathered in the Friends’ room in front of a blazing log fire for the evening’s entertainment. Alan started with a long poem by a retired Dean of Chester Cathedral and sometime attender at meeting for worship. Allan then read aloud one of Jonathon’s poems..about a spider, I think, a recurrent theme. Rachel next gave a short extract from another poem…I’m hoping friends will help me out here by filling in the gaps…I read part of Burnt Norton, the first of the Four Quartets by T S Elliot which told of ‘the Dance’. I also told a story, called ‘The Footwashing at Marlborough’, found in Sandra Cronk’s pamphlet, Gospel Order. Ed remarked on thepowerful image of the ‘heart of light’ and how it had new meaning for him. Allan offered his haiku, telling of a wedding occasion, which he descibed as a ‘blossoming’. Then, ‘the other’ Bernie launched us into a couple of ballads, John Ball and Sarah’s Song. His fingers blurred over the four-string, baritone ukelele. We were only warming up. Many more logs were laid on the fire as Alan and Penny led us on a carousing singsong from the Quaker songbook. My favourite was ‘Dona nobis pacem’, which reminded me of Julia and music group. The group gave everything up with gusto and relish to bellow out George Fox’s song in ‘leather breaches and his shaggy, shaggy locks.’ I couldn’t help wondering if there had been similar scenes of homespun entertainment in the Great Hall in front of the fire, just the other side of the doorway there? Festiviities and jovialities…simple things together give so much pleasure. May I offer you my own haiku..?
At the crackling of the hearth, sleeps into my heart, faces smiling, held with love
I quickly did some washing up, a spiritual practice. Lights out at half-eleven, unthinkable! The alarm was set for 6.30am for more QiGong with the possibilty two more people…we’ll see, I said to myself, drifting off to sleep.
A robin on a wall, a raven up a tree
I slept soundly, waking up in need of a wee. I crept downstairs as quietly as I could. I knew Miriam was next door, so to flush or not to flush. Sorry, Miriam. Allan was downstairs in the Friends’ room, dressed for an arctic journey. We went outside onto the lawn at the front of the Hall. This time, we worked more quickly through the routines with fewer words needed. I noted again how strange it felt to hear the very words Diane used to show us coming out of my mouth, forming my voice. I even heard me say ‘tummy’.
A robin came to look at us with curiosity, perched on a stone wall. The raven was still up in the branches. And it was still very, very cold. We’d finished when I said, ‘let’s do Earth Breath One again but this time without any words.’ So, we repeated Earth Breath One silently, thoroughly. An ending is also a beginning. We smiled, shook hands and exchanged a manhug at the end. He went off for a shower before breakfast. I stayed awhile and did my tree thing, something I’d learned at Canterbury and finished with a silly but wonderful ‘standing like a tree’ song. Funny the things you can find yourself doing when you’re a Quaker…and then I set off again to the Post Office for the Sunday paper.
Everton had lost 2-1, away at Norwich, conceding two late goals, including a last minute winner, virtually ending any prospect of European football next season, according to the paper. But we’ll see, keep going till the end. You never know. And, anyway, I’ve learned that there’s always the next game. At breakfast, there was some discussion about the right holding of worship sharing. The conversation centred on whether to comment or have a conversation or not during it. QF&P and my own experience of doing it well and badly are quite clear on this. It’s not to comment. If we do, it ceases to be worship sharing. It may be something valuable but it doesn’t leave room for the spirit to work in and around us. It’s something else.
Into the Great Hall, we went to settle down for meeting for worship. I sat in another old wooden, carved seat with cushions, close to the convector heaters, facing the big table and fireplace. I noticed at the start of meeting that Margaret Fell’s chair was empty. Chris had sat down straight away in Fox’s chair. I counted my breathing. I was feeling a little nervous, finding centring down difficult. I was thinking of the reading I’d chosen the day before, actually many days ago without realising I would read it here. ‘Gather yourself, man’, I told myself and started to read…
(QF&P 19.12) There is a spirit which I feel that delights to do no evil, nor to avenge any wrong, but delights to endure all things, in hope to enjoy its own in the end…If it be betrayed, it bears it, for its ground and spring is the mercies and forgiveness of God…James Naylor, 1659
He dictated these words on his deathbed. To me, it is a wonderful and troubling quote. Would Margaret and George have appreciated it? I think so.
Something caught my eye during meeting. The door leading to Judge Fell’s room was closed. I tried to ignore the urge to go and open it but was unable to second time round. ‘The door is closed shut, open it’, a quiet voice said. ‘It’s just a door and the room’s draughty’, I said. ‘Open it.’ So, I did, lifting the latch and leaving it ajar, so that Judge Fell and anyone else might join with us in worship.
I experienced a profound sense of security and warmth. We slipped into worship sharing after hearing the notices. At the end, I noticed Rachel had moved into Margaret Fell’s chair, saying it was much more comfortable to sit in. I lingered as if to explore the Hall for myself one last time but found all the other rooms locked, of course.
When I got back to the Barn, Allan was giving us the answers to the Quaker quizzes about meeting houses and people. He presented the winning prize, a book about 1652 Country, to the other Alan. I’m usually hopeless at quizzes, so hadn’t entered. I was in good company. Only three of us had! But I don’t think any of us went away without a ‘prize’. I hope not anyway. There was a game in the Friends’ room, 1652 country. I had spent some time on the first evening trying to work out the rules until I realised there weren’t any for the simple reason that this is a game where there aren’t any winners or losers, just enquirers. And we’re all enquirers.
We ended with a sharing of our two postcards, chosen on the first night. I said I was a proud scouser, proud of my meeting. My energy levels had held up right the way through and I’d not fallen out with a single person, as far as I knew, which was unusual, even in my own head. Was that because of EFM and the changes it is working in me? Or could it be the peaceful atmosphere at Swarthmoor? I looked at my Superlambanana, a citizen of the world, a lamb of the World, and thought of the Lamb’s War, of bearing witness again. We don’t get beaten up for our faith anymore but it’s hard to share it, to let people know you’re a Quaker and talk about what it means to you. To bear witness could mean simply having a conversation on a train.
Pauline said something which moved me in our small group. She said that she felt she had been truly listened to over the weekend. That somehow felt deeply nurturing and important.
And what of the elephants? They were still connected, still ‘married’, a good sign. I felt a bond with everyone in the circle, a strengthening of the threads which hold us together in our AM. Ideas were flowing. Why not call a ‘flash gathering’ of friends at Wigan? What about holding a meeting on a theme where friends from other AMs come together? Actually, this does still happen but, removed from Quaker structures, General Meeting has become optional, left to meetings to arrange. I have been to a couple at Wilmslow in the past few years and it’s not that long ago that we held one in Liverpool, using recyclable rubbish to create works of art. Get out there! Visit one another. Travel. If all you ever see is your own LM, as wonderful as it may be, you are missing out on so much more.
Lunch was served, buffet style but I went and apologised to the staff. I simply could not eat another meal. The food is amazing but there is masses of it and it just keeps coming over the weekend. Jacket potatoes, quorn chilly and a strawberry fool for pudding. Ouch! This last one hurt but I had to pass. I felt I was physically swelling up from all the eating. I usually have chopped fruit on a Sunday lunchtime, a mindful, spiritual practice. Afterwards, I dashed off for the train back along the footpath but I’d gotten the train times wrong. I found I had a good hour and ten to wait. Practice. This became an opportunity to go into Ulverston to look around. I thought I might even try and find the church where Margaret and Judge Fell went to and where George Fox preached for the first time. I couldn’t find it. On the otherhand, it seemed to me that I had walked intoTobermory. So many of the houses were painted in bright colours.
From the far side of town, half way up the hill, I could see a steeple. This turned out to be almost next door to the station. From the look of it and the dates of the remaining headstones in the graveyard, it appeared early nineteenth century to me, too late to be the church I was looking for, althugh it could have been built on the same site. It would have to wait a further sleuthing visit. There wouldn’t be any church services here any longer. The church in front of me boasted a big sign outside, ‘Luxury 1/2 bedroomed apartments for sale.’ What would Fox say about that?
We jammed onto the train from Ulverston. At least I got a seat but it was next to the toilet. So, I wouldn’t see anything on the return journey on my right. Was this another spiritual practice? ‘Oh, well’, I thought, ‘I’ll just have to come here again’ and smiled.